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Failure

13 Apr

This blog has been a failure.

There, I said it.

I started this blog back in August 2012 in a bout of inspiration from reading Neville Medhora.  But I don’t think I had a real driving reason for creating the blog and my propensity to half-finish things led to me losing inspiration and not touching it again until now…8 months and $20-something later (the fee WordPress charges).

I still read other blogs, and one of the recurring topics I keep learning about is failure.  Failure is necessary for success, it helps you grow and improve, etc.  I believe this to a certain extent, but I think failure can lead to more failure and inaction if you don’t admit to failure.  So that is what I am doing right now.  I failed at this blog because I didn’t care enough about it and I didn’t choose to dedicate time to it.  Once I put it down for a while, that anxiety or unease to ADMIT that I failed at it is what caused me to ignore it for so long.  I was in effect ignoring (and not admitting to) failure by proxy of ignoring my blog.  This is kind of circuitous because the reason I probably stopped writing was because of a fear of failure in the first place.  That fear is something I constantly struggle against.  It is fear of failure…but also possibly fear of success.

Fear of success ties into how I figured out why I want to write this blog.  This blog is to help people get over BOTH fear of failure AND fear of success in attaining social mobility.  I know I have this fear, and I know others do as well.  Escaping your social class entails a great deal of courage- it is a huge change in your how you live your life, and it can mean leaving your family, friends, and coworkers behind in an economic sense.  It can mean becoming that “jerk in the Mercedes” you used to sneer at (jealously).  It takes a psychological approach to be able to accept improvement and success for yourself when it entails a separation from others you care about.

I think this is where my fear of success comes from.  I think this blog will help me and my readers talk about this psychology and help us accept success.  Leave a comment below to tell me what you think is holding you back from escaping your social class.

 

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Motivation?

27 Aug

Well it has been over a week since my last post.  I’ve been procrastinating BIG TIME with a lot of things going on, including this blog.  I have a salary review coming up which I’ve *kind of* been preparing for…which is really unacceptable.  For those with traditional full-time jobs, your salary has and will play a MAJOR impact on your financial well-being, as well as your ability to attain social mobility.  A $5k raise now has a multiplier effect on your salary for the rest of your life (most of the time).  As your salary grows it increases your odds of retaining or boosting that salary even as you move from job to job.

I want to post a little more in depth about this later in the week.

To no surprise to me, my (Rest of) August Goals have suffered along with my procrastination.

I intend to be honest with this blog, so admissions like this will come from time to time.  Unlike a lot of personal development bloggers, I don’t plan on perpetuating some ridiculous facade that I’m superhuman and have no faults but ALL the answers.

It’s Alive!

19 Aug

This blog is dedicated to the pursuit of success in life.  The inspiration for the blog is the theme of escaping your social class.  I have a theory that the reason many people don’t pursue enhancing their social positioning is that they view their parents as the goal, and that if they can attain the lifestyle that their parents had, then they have succeeded.

I reject this assumption that success is achieved once you’ve reached the lifestyle of your parents.  In fact, most people say that the goal of a child should be to become more successful than their parents…but they don’t do anything to achieve that.  I came from the middle class, and from my experience in it I’ve found a pervasive disposition of complacency and settling.  People are OK with what they have, and they’re not interested in acting to achieve more.  I think to a certain degree this is fine (in order to be happy with your current situation).  However, I think this attitude can fester and become rotten, and that is how people end up in the same job or in the same pay range for their entire lives.

I don’t want this to happen to me, and I don’t want it to happen to you.  This blog will track my journey from class to class as I “move up the ladder.”  As I write this I am 23 years old, and will turn 24 this month.

The two driving motivations behind this blog are:

1- To give myself accountability so that I always have the goal of self improvement in mind

2- To add value to the lives of the people who read this blog (if there are ever any people who read this 🙂 )

So, onward into the unknown of personal, financial, and career development involved in escaping your social class.

So it goes…